Sorry, I didn’t make it to the computer yesterday – I was binding off my shawl and there was no way I could stop. It’s soaking in the sink now, I’ll share pictures when it’s dry!
I wanted to tell you what we did for Kaya’s birthday party last weekend.
When we were thinking of having a little do (the first one – birthdays no. 1, 2 and 3 were all family affairs), I googled for ideas. But all that came up were village halls and bouncy castles. We’ve been to some lovely birthday parties for Kaya’s friends that were held in halls with lots of children, but I was after something smaller, at home.
Space here is limited, so I applied a rule I remember from my own childhood: to invite as many guests as you have years. We tweaked this a bit, because of little siblings and Kaya not being able to make up his mind who to invite. In the end he chose to invite this two best buddies from kindergarten (plus their little sisters) and his godfather.
I planned two activities: making rolls and making crowns. A lot of the preparation could be done beforehand, which even left me an hour of knitting before everyone arrived!
For the rolls I made a batch of dough (the Easter bread from Baking Bread with Children,
one of our favourites) and put out some nuts and raisins for decoration in little bowls.
For the crowns I cut a couple of crown shapes from A4 card, and punched a hole in either end. We had wax crayons and stickers, and felt letters to glue on for decoration. I had some elastic thread ready to fit the crowns to their king’s head.
The day before the party, we baked the cakes. Kaya has a photo album from his naming ceremony when he was a baby, for which I made a huge amount of decorated fairy cakes. That’s just what he wanted!
We walked to the sugarcraft shop together, and he chose pirate muffin cases, star-shaped cutters and red icing. He did all the mixing for the cakes, and cut out most of the stars, so these were really his cakes.
We left a few of them icing-free, for the younger children.

We also prepared a game I remember from way back when; Topfschlagen in German. I’m not sure what the English name is, ‘pot hitting’??
Basically, a child is blindfolded and given a wooden spoon. Then somebody places a pot upside down, with a little present underneath, somewhere in the room. The child has to move around, tapping the floor, until he finds the pot – the others coax him in the right direction.
Kaya loved our ‘dry practise’ with the pot (without presents) in the morning. That kept him busy for quite some time, hiding the pot himself and then tapping all over the house to ‘find’ it!
For prizes I got little bottles of bubbles, and some rainbow pencils with little note books. To make them special for each child I embroidered their name on a piece of felt and glued it to the book.

With all that preparation done, you can only wait for the guests to arrive and then go with the flow.
I had limited the party to an hour and a half on the invitations, but of course everyone arrived a little late and stayed much longer.
When the children arrived, nobody wanted to make rolls. So I just popped them in the oven and the children could take them home to eat in the end, along with their crowns, note books, pencils and bubbles.
The crowns were a big hit with the boys and the younger children too (and the mums). One of the guests was not so keen to join in the games, so it was quite a good thing to have the colouring pencils out, and have a few toys ready.
We were lucky to have a lovely day, so at the end of the party everyone went outside to blow their bubbles and play a bit of football!

Sorry about this rather lengthy post, but I hope it might give you some ideas if you ever find yourself planning a birthday party for a 4-year-old.
P.S. These are two books that I can recommend for more ideas for birthday celebrations: The Children’s Party Book and The Birthday Book
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Oh, I am filing away the little notebook idea for next year when Asher turns 4 and has a party. So sweet! xo
Great! I hope it’ll help!
WOW! You did all that with an infant in the mix? Amazing! I’m ashamed to admit that for my daughter’s sixth birthday a few days ago, I was too exhausted to anything other than throw money at it. Not a very enlightened solution. Like you, we’d never had much of a “do” for previous birthdays – just a family tea – but now that she’s started school, the number of dear friends well out-stripped the capacity of our tiny house, especially in freezing February when they can’t do much outside. So, I rented a sports hall and a gym teacher, and sixteen of them ran about for an hour of sporty games, followed by a giant white iced cake (that I ordered from the internet and decorated with iced olympic rings). What a cop out!
I think next year I will try to remember your excellent idea of inviting the number of guests for your age – that’s a great one!
Well. Half an hour preparation over the course of the day for a week or two gets you there little by little..
And don’t feel bad! There’s a time for Topfschlagen and a time for gym teachers (I bet they had great fun!!! And slept really well that night!).
I love the game you described, I bet there was lots of giggling and laughter watching the blindfolded child “look” for the pot (of gold!). Glad the crowns were a hit too. I think you gave him a wonderful party!
Kaya said playing the game was his favourite part!
Your post was wonderful! Oh, I LOVE the game with the wooden spoon! My daughter is having her 8th birthday party on Friday, and I am tucking that little game away in my mind for them to play. Perfect timing. And the notebooks: I am in love with them. Thanks for sharing.
Thank you Lisa. I hope you have a great party!
I love the notebooks and the game is a great idea! Sounds like a wonderful time – I want to sneak one of those cupcakes! Mmm!
Yep, they didn’t last very long…
Thank you very much for your post
Approaching the birthday 3 of my daughter and i´m out of ideas …
You did everything very cute and the children must have been fantastic.
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Thank you – I’m sure you’ll have a lovely birthday!
These are great ideas, I will save them for the next birthday at home