There is this wall in our house that is dedicated to photos of our extended family. We created it in our old house when we were expecting Kaya, in what became his room.
With all of our family living abroad, we felt that we wanted to have them around us in this way at least.
It has been so good to watch Kaya start taking an interest in the pictures, learn everyone’s names, meet them ‘in real life’, and remember them at home – especially since some of his great-grandparents have passed away.
In this house we are careful about nails in the wall as we are renting, so the pictures have been held up by velcro devices, picture hanging strips, and lots of blu tack!
They have held out for almost a year, but recently some of them have fallen down.
We need to get more picture strips. Or find a new clever way to keep them up there.
In the meantime, I miss our families even more as I cannot see everyone when I move around the house.
Not that I studied the pictures every time I passed, but you always notice something more when it’s missing, no?
When I left home aged 19, I was only going away for a year. That was in 2003.
Of course I have missed my family, but nothing like since Kaya has arrived.
I wish he could grow up with his grandparents, aunties, uncles and cousins living just around the corner. Or at least in reasonable driving distance. Or all in one country, for that matter.
And old friends that I miss, who live in another country, or at another end of this one.
But we are here now, and since money is tight we don’t know when we will see them next.
So today I am grateful for the opportunities of communication in modern life: Internet, skype, emails, telephones – means by which we can be in touch regularly, speak and even see each other.
Little messages that make us feel closer.
Being able to send and receive pictures and videos, seeing little ones grow.
And cards and letters, which had a recent revival in our house.
And I am so grateful for the friends and lovely family substitutes around us.
And friends that I have the fortune to know in this space, even though some of us have never actually met.
Love to you all.
Rachel had a family related Reality Check post as well this week, but of a different kind!